What I’ve Learned About People from Playing Pickleball
I’ve been around people a long time—church people, ministry people, family people—but lately, pickleball has given me a front row seat to a whole new classroom of human behavior. It’s like a crash course in people skills with a paddle in your hand!
Here are a few things I’ve learned about people while chasing a wiffle ball across the court:
1. People Show Their True Colors Under Pressure
You don’t really know someone until they’re down 9–10 game on the line and serving. Some folks get calm and focused, some get feisty, and some forget every rule they’ve ever learned. Life’s the same way—pressure reveals what’s really inside. Ministry or pickleball, you can’t fake it for long.
2. Everybody Wants a Coach
Even the most competitive players are looking for tips—whether they admit it or not. “Hey, what grip are you using?” or “How do you keep that dink so low?” People are wired to grow, but they need encouragement, not criticism. The same goes for teams and volunteers. Nobody wants a critic with a whistle—they want a coach with a smile.
3. Some Folks Don’t Call the Lines Straight
Let’s be honest, we’ve all played with somebody whose “in” and “out” is a little questionable. It’s amazing how the close calls always seem to go their way. In life and ministry, it’s the same—some people bend the truth for their own advantage. That’s why integrity matters more than winning points.
4. People Love to Belong
Whether it’s a pickleball meetup, a church small group, or just a couple buddies hitting balls, people want to be part of something bigger than themselves. They’ll show up early, bring snacks, even buy the merch and rock the stickers if it means they’re included. Belonging is one of the greatest gifts we can offer in ministry—and pickleball reminded me of that.
5. People Care About Your Story
Some of the best conversations don’t happen on the court—they happen at the tables while folks are waiting their turn to play. That’s where you hear about someone’s family, celebrate their wins, find out about what they do for work and share a laugh or two. Pickleball is more than a game—it’s a front porch for friendships, a place to deepen relationships, and a reminder that people don’t just want to play… they want to connect. And they want to be seen.
6. Everyone Loves to Celebrate
Whether it’s a killer smash or just finally making contact with the ball, people light up when you celebrate them. High fives, paddle taps, “great shot!”—it doesn’t take much. In ministry, same rule applies: celebrate progress, not just perfection. At home, at church and on the court catching people doing thing right make a huge difference.
7. Encouragers Are Gold
There are always a few folks who go out of their way to point out the positive. They’ll tell you “Nice hustle!” even when you whiff the shot, or “You’re getting better every game!” Those encouragers make you feel like a million bucks. And here’s the truth—every church, every team, and every family needs more of them. The encouragers I play and do life with me make me want to be an encourager too. Thank you encouragers for this reminder.
Match Point
Pickleball has taught me something priceless: it’s the only sport where you can lose every game and still walk away with a smile. Why? Because the power of people is greater than the score when everything is said and done. People need encouragement, community, patience, and a whole lot of grace.
So whether you’re dinking, driving, or just waiting for your turn at the table—remember this: people matter more than points.
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