The Job, The Call, and the Kids We’re Hiring (AKA Millennials & Gen Z)

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Let me start by saying—I love working with younger generations. They keep me on my toes, teach me new words (like “rizz” and “delulu”), and make me Google acronyms just to stay in the conversation. But if you’ve ever led a team made up of Millennials and Gen Z, you’ve probably noticed something: they don’t think like we did when we were starting out in ministry. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing—it just means we’ve got to lead differently to get the values we want to instill in this new multigenerational workspace.

So let’s talk about three big ministry concepts: The Job, The Call, and The Crew You’re Doing It With.

1. The Job: What You’re Paid to Do

Back in the day, “the job” meant whatever needed to be done—no job descriptions, just expectations. You mowed the church lawn on Saturday and preached in Kidmin on Sunday. You got paid in pizza, donated expired food and “eternal rewards.”

But today’s young leaders? They’ve read the job description. They’ve highlighted it. They’ve probably sent you an email with a couple clarifying questions. If I can be honest I have a love/hate relationship with it, It shows they care about clarity and boundaries. Something my generation struggled with and have regrets over. Millennials and Gen Z aren’t lazy—they’re just not gonna say yes to “Empty Cup Syndrome” with a smile and a “bless your heart.” And honestly? Good for them.

How to lead them well:
Be clear. Be consistent. And make sure their job aligns with their strengths. Don’t hire a worship leader and ask them to design the graphics and social media just because they’re young unless you know they love Canva.

2. The Call: What You’re Born to Do

The call is bigger than the job. The call is why you cried at youth camp and surrendered your life to ministry—even though you didn’t fully understand what that meant. It’s that thing deep down in your soul that says, “I was made for this.”

Here’s the challenge: younger generations are passionate about purpose, but they don’t always see ministry as the only place to fulfill it. They might feel just as called to start a nonprofit, launch a podcast, or make Kingdom impact on TikTok. (Yes, even TikTok.)

How to lead them well:
Help them connect the dots between their calling and the local church. Show them how ministry isn’t just on the stage—it’s in the setup, the team huddle, the text you send on a Tuesday. And remind them that calling often looks like faithfulness over time, not viral moments.

3. The Crew: Working With Millennials & Gen Z

Here’s the thing—every generation is weird. (Even ours, Boomer. Especially ours.) We grew up on cassette tapes and Sunday night church. (Some of us on record players and tent crusades) They grew up on YouTube, Spotify, and asking why before they say yes. They’ve never lived without a Drive-Thru Window and a microwave. They are used to instant results. But instead of complaining about the “kids these days,” what if we started learning from them?

Millennials are loyal when they’re led well. Gen Z is creative, quick, and can build a sermon slide deck in less time than it takes us to find the remote. They want mentorship, feedback, and a voice at the table. They just don’t want to do it “because that’s how we’ve always done it.”

How to lead them well:
Be relational. Invest in their growth. Give them room to innovate—and yes, to fail. If you create a culture where questions are welcomed and growth is expected, you’ll build a team that’s more than staff—they’ll become your legacy.

The job may change as well as how it’s done. The generations will keep on coming. But the call to lead and disciple never goes out of style. So let’s keep showing up, keep learning, and keep making room at the table for the next wave of leaders—even if they show up with cold brew and a ring light. Leaders who stay teachable and adaptable don’t just make a difference—they leave a legacy that outlives them!

Because at the end of the day…
The job is what you do.
The call is why you do it.
And the team? They’re who you get to do it with.

Let’s lead them well—and maybe learn a few new dance moves while we’re at it.

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7 Things Old Jim Wishes Young Jim Knew

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Let’s face it: hindsight is 20/20—unless you’re like me and your bifocals fog up during altar calls.

I’ve been in ministry for five decades and counting. That means I’ve had the privilege of doing children’s ministry in my 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s—and now I’m staring down my 70s like, “Wait… didn’t I just graduate from youth group?”

Looking back, I wish I could’ve sat Young Jim down, offered him a Dr Pepper, and shared a few lessons that might’ve saved him some headaches, heartbreaks, and bad hair decisions. So here are seven things I’d love to tell my younger self (and maybe they’ll help you too):

1. Don’t Be the Star of the One-Man Show

Young Jim loved to do it all—stage design, puppet shows, check-in, goldfish cracker distribution… the works. He thought building a team was optional. Spoiler: it’s not.

If you’re the only one carrying the load, you’re not building a ministry—you’re building a meltdown. Ministry isn’t about being the hero. It’s about making heroes out of others. Duplicate yourself. Coach people. Share the mic. And remember: there is no success without successors.

2. Your Thoughts Drive the Train

Back in the day, I had more opinions than Crayola had colors—and about as much wisdom as a soggy fortune cookie.

Eventually, I learned your thoughts direct your steps. If you think small, you’ll stay small. If you think negatively, you’ll act negatively. But if you think like Jesus—Philippians 4:8 style—you’ll live differently. Evaluate your thoughts often, and don’t let your mind run wild. It needs a shepherd too.

3. Ministry Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint

Yes, Young Jim… there were Mondays you wanted to quit. So do most people in ministry. But guess what? Your calling isn’t based on feelings. It’s based on obedience.

Stop looking for instant results and start playing the long game. Trust God with the process. When you serve others’ dreams, you’ll find God fulfilling your own. And for heaven’s sake—don’t give in to fear. It’s always the fast track to burnout.

4. Put Family Second Only to God—Not Third Behind the Church

Young Jim gave up too many nights, weekends, and vacations “for the sake of the ministry.” Older Jim knows better.

Your spouse, your kids, and your grandkids need your presence more than your perfection. Guard your day off like it’s the last scoop of Blue Bell. Date your wife. Laugh with your kids. Turn off the laptop. The church will still be there tomorrow—your kid’s ballgame won’t be.

5. Be Your Pastor’s Biggest Fan

Ministry isn’t the place for lone rangers. Young Jim didn’t always get this, but I’ve learned that representing your leader well is part of representing Jesus well.

That means honoring their vision, echoing their heart, and cheering them on even when they’re not in the room. Loyalty matters. Trust matters. And your pastor doesn’t need another critic—they need a champion.

6. Love People More Than Programs

Old Jim knows the most valuable thing in ministry isn’t your service schedule—it’s the people God’s trusted you with.

Love the parents. Love your volunteers. Love the crusty deacon who still thinks flannelgraph is cutting-edge. People matter. Relationships are the soil discipleship grows in. And yes—sometimes people are messy, but so is grace.

7. Learn the Art of Refreshing

Young Jim pushed through the stress and called it “faithfulness.” Old Jim knows better.

You can’t give what you don’t have. If your tank’s empty, everyone suffers. The Holy Spirit didn’t just come to give you power for ministry—He came to refresh your soul. Pray in the Spirit. Take your Sabbath. Guard your joy. And don’t feel guilty about that nap—it’s biblical.

Would I go back and change anything? Sure. But I’m also thankful for the lessons. Every mistake taught me something. Every season shaped me. And every decade reminded me: ministry is about faithfulness, not flash.

So what about you?
What would future you wish current you knew?

Maybe it’s time to pause, reflect, and course-correct before Old You writes an article about it.

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Managing Big Event Mode (Without Losing Your Mind, Ministry, or Family)

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If you’ve been in ministry for more than five minutes, you know there’s a mode we all switch into before a big event. I call it “Big Event Mode.” It’s that magical time when your to-do list has babies, your phone battery can’t keep up, and your family starts calling you “stranger.”

Whether it’s VBS, a fall fest, camp, Christmas, Easter, or just Sunday, ministry has a way of cranking up the pressure before a big moment. But here’s the deal: stress and busyness don’t have to steal your joy—or your effectiveness.

So let me give you some wisdom (and maybe a laugh or two) on managing Big Event Mode like the seasoned pro you are—or hope to be.

1. Plan Like a Boss, Pivot Like a Ninja

The best way to reduce stress? Start early. Like before-you-need-to-start early. Big Event Mode is a lot less terrifying when you’ve mapped things out ahead of time. But even the best plans need wiggle room—because something will change. Supplies won’t come in. A key volunteer will get the flu. Someone will accidentally book the bounce house for the wrong weekend. (Ask me how I know.)

Stay flexible. Hold your plan in one hand and your peace in the other.

2. Don’t Try to Do it All—That’s What Volunteers Are For!

God didn’t call you to be a one-man (or one-woman) show. He called you to equip the saints—not replace them. Big Event Mode is a great time to let others rise to the occasion.

Learn the spiritual gift of delegation. It’s right there between hospitality and sarcasm… or it should be.

3. Say “No” So You Can Say “Yes” to What Matters

In busy seasons, you can’t say yes to everything. Protect your energy like it’s the last slice of pizza at a youth event. That means no extra side meetings, no new side projects, and no side-eye when people don’t understand you’re in full-on go mode.

Focus on what must get done, and don’t apologize for simplifying.

4. Celebrate Every Win (Even the Little Ones)

Did the supply order show up on time? Win. Did your intern finally learn to staple facing the right way? Win. Did nobody cry during volunteer training this week? Big win.

In stressful seasons, gratitude is your secret weapon. Pause and celebrate what God is doing—even when your to-do list says otherwise.

5. Laugh On Purpose

If you’re not laughing in Big Event Mode, you’re probably crying. And let’s be honest, tears ruin your walkie-talkie.

Schedule in some laughter. Make a playlist. Tell a dad joke. Find that one volunteer who always brings the weird snacks and hang out with them. Humor lightens the load—and your team needs to see you smile on purpose, not just when you finally find the lost receipt in your back pocket.

6. Remember Why You’re Doing This

It’s easy to get so wrapped up in checklists, decorations, and room layouts that you forget the “why.” You’re not planning an event—you’re building moments where people encounter Jesus.

So breathe. Pray. Worship while you work. And when the big day comes, don’t miss the ministry because you’re too busy managing the madness.

Big Event Mode doesn’t have to break you. It can build you. With the right prep, the right people, and the right perspective, you can lead through it with peace, purpose, and maybe even a little bit of fun.

Now go drink some water, hug your family, and check that date on the bounce house one more time—just to be safe.

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Fun is Not the Goal: Why Our Kids Need God’s Power, Not Just Pizza

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Let’s talk about church for a second—specifically, kids at church. Somewhere along the way, we started believing that if church isn’t a non-stop carnival for kids, they’ll peace out the minute they turn 13. So we build ball pits, pass out donuts like party favors, and give away iPads at big events just to keep them coming back.

Now, don’t get me wrong—I’m not anti-fun. I love a good snack table and some loud worship songs with hand motions that double as cardio. But if all we’re offering our kids is a sugar high and a memory verse with glitter on it, we’re selling them short. Way short.

Because here’s the deal: our kids don’t just need to be entertained—they need to encounter God. For real.

They need to feel His presence. They need to experience His power. They need to know that when they pray, heaven hears. That when they worship, something shifts. That when they invite Jesus in, He shows up. That’s not religious hype. That’s reality—and they’re hungry for it.

You know what actually changes a kid’s life? Not a bounce house. It’s the moment they hear God speak to them for the first time. It’s when they feel Holy Spirit so strongly they can’t stop crying—and they don’t even know why. It’s when they pray for their friend’s broken arm and it gets healed. That’s the kind of stuff they’ll never forget.

Fun wears off. Encounters with God stick.

I’ve seen kids fall on their knees in worship, completely undone by the love of Jesus. I’ve watched kids lay hands on each other and pray with fire that could melt steel. I’ve heard them speak in tongues, get words of knowledge, and see visions. That’s not “junior” Holy Spirit. That’s the same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead—working through an 8-year-old who hasn’t even finished their math homework.

So yes, let’s keep things fun. Let’s make church a place kids want to be. But let’s stop thinking fun is the goal.

If all they leave with is a smile and a prize, but not the presence of God, we’ve missed the whole point.

Let’s raise a generation that doesn’t just know about God—but knows Him personally. Kids who don’t just sing songs, but actually worship. Kids who don’t just sit through a Bible story, but feel the Author speaking to them through it. Kids who know what it means to carry His presence into their schools, their sports teams, their homes.

Because the world doesn’t need more well-behaved, churched-up kids. It needs kids who walk in power. Kids who carry the presence of God like it’s the most natural thing in the world.

Let’s be the ones who show them that’s possible.

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Planning Well Doesn’t Mean Leading Well

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Back in the day, I had a Franklin Planner, a whiteboard calendar the size of Texas, and a Sharpie collection that could rival Hobby Lobby’s inventory. I planned everything—sermons, series, snacks, puppet practices, you name it. I even planned my planning time.

But one day, I had a lightbulb moment that hit me right between the three-ring binder and the Gantt chart:
Just because I planned well didn’t mean I was leading well.
Shocking, I know. I wanted to argue with myself. “But Jim,” I said, “your spreadsheet color-coding is top-tier!”
And it was.

But I also had volunteers who were confused, parents who felt out of the loop, and a team who could recite my plan but didn’t know how they fit into it.
A Good Plan Without Good Leadership is Just… Paper.

It’s easy to confuse planning with leading. But they’re not the same. Planning is important—absolutely. I believe in systems and structure (have you read STRETCH?). But if all I ever do is plan, I’m just organizing people’s time. Leading is about organizing their hearts.
Let me break it down like this:
Planning tells people what to do.
Leading shows people why it matters.
Planning is the map.
Leadership is the guide who walks it with them.

You Can’t Delegate Vision to a Calendar.
A calendar doesn’t inspire people. A Google Doc doesn’t cast vision. And a checklist can’t coach someone through their burnout. I learned that leading well means connecting, communicating, and caring—not just cranking out more detailed plans.
You ever try to follow GPS directions that are technically accurate but lead you straight into a lake? That’s what it’s like when a leader plans without leading. (Ask me how I know. That poor rental car.)
So What’s the Fix?

If you’re a planner like me, here are a few reminders that’ll help you move from planner-in-chief to leader worth following:
Talk to people more than you type.
Real leadership happens in conversations, not just in content.
Stop managing schedules—start mentoring people.
Invest in who your team is becoming, not just what they’re doing.
Revisit your “why” often.
If you haven’t said the vision out loud in the last week, go ahead and say it again today.

Evaluate more than events.
Ask your team how they’re doing, not just how the service went.
Make space for the Spirit.

Don’t get so married to your plan that you forget the Holy Spirit might want to interrupt it.

You can plan the perfect service, coordinate the cutest crafts, and schedule snack duty to the second—but if you’re not leading with heart, with purpose, and with people in mind, you’re just running a well-organized circus.

And trust me, I’ve been to enough circus-style ministry moments to know… you can have a great plan and still lose your monkeys.
So yes—plan well. But lead even better.
Because at the end of the day, it’s not about how good your plan looks—it’s about how well your people follow the God who called you all to it.

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